Topic: Well Being | Posted:May 18, 2012
Every day we experience some form of offence from others. It is natural to become upset when a friend does something that is hurtful towards us. Our reaction to this type of behavior is often to lash back or do something that will hurt them in return. Even when we have the ability to refrain from acting out of vengeance, it is difficult to let go of our injured feelings. Yet there is a powerful reason for us to not only refrain from reacting negatively, but to completely let go of those hurt feelings.
One the most important things to understand about our lives is the law of cause and effect. The way we behave – be it through good actions or less good actions – determines what will come back to us. As we behave, so the Light of the Creator behaves with us. The kabbalists base this teaching on a verse in Psalms, “The Creator is your shadow.” This important teaching can reveal and explain much about our lives.
We have all done, and unfortunately often continue to do, actions that we know we should not. We behave selfishly, we become angry, and knowing the law of cause and effect, it is clear that due to our actions we have created challenges for ourselves that will manifest in our lives. There is, however, a way to make sure that we are protected from the repercussions of our negative actions.
If we are able to let go of others’ negative actions towards us, then, because of this behavior, the negative effects of our own actions cannot come back to affect us. When we are wronged and we are willing and able to let go of that hurt, this is the kind of energy we draw into our lives -- the energy of forgiveness. Hence, even though we have committed a negative action, we will not have the resulting negative energy come back to us because we are willing to let go and forgive others for anything negative that we perceive them having done to us. As a result, any negativity that is meant to return into our lives will be held back, and we will be protected.
Once you understand this teaching, you begin to limit your negative feelings and reactions towards others. Next time somebody does something hurtful towards you remind yourself, “If I am able to let go of this feeling of hurt, I am drawing upon myself a shield of protection from a negative action that I have done.” And if you continue practicing this you will find yourself beginning to see these “hurtful” circumstances as opportunities to draw protection, until it becomes second nature to let go of any type of negative reactions towards others.