Topic: Well Being | Posted:February 25, 2013
“This is the Day that the Creator made, we will be joyful and happy in it.” - Psalms 118:24
Whether we are aware of it or not, our day and all that occurs in it can be divided into two categories. There are the parts that we plan and go as planned; we are usually happy and enjoy these parts. And there are those parts of the day that we did not plan for, the little and great unanticipated occurrences, usually beyond our control, that we do not generally enjoy. These parts can be as small as somebody cutting us off on the road or something bigger such as the cancelation of a flight which was meant to take us to a very important meeting.
The kabbalists have a completely different perspective on these two parts of our day, one that if we are able to understand and live, can change our lives. They teach that as we are trying to live a spiritual life that can bring our soul to its elevated state - the purpose for which it came into this world - we can never be sure if our own plans will actually take us there. We can never be completely sure that the plan we make for that day is the best for us either physically or spiritually.
The other part of our day is the part that we did not plan for but came to us anyway, or rather, the part that the Creator planned and made for us. If we desire to accomplish our soul’s purpose and draw all the blessings that are meant to manifest in our lives, then it is this part of the day that should make us happiest. We can be certain that the parts of the day the Creator planned for us will change us in the way that we need to, and that they are bringing us closer to the purpose for which we came to this world.
With this understanding we see why the more important and joyful parts of our days should be the ones we did not plan. If we are able to understand this teaching and live it, we can change our days and our lives. King David wrote in Psalms, “This is the day the Creator has made, we will be joyful and happy in it,” meaning that he had achieved the level where the most joyful and happy parts of his day were not the situations that he planned, but the ones that came to him. He was able to see and feel that these were the best parts of the day, and therefore, he was most happy with them.
A few weeks ago I was in Miami for a lecture, and I had a meeting in Boca Raton at 12pm. I always try to be on time for meetings, so I allotted myself 15 minutes to go downstairs to the valet and get the car, and 45 minutes for the drive. This plan would have gotten me there well in time for my meeting. At 11 I went down to the valet. There was nobody else there so I was sure my car would be up in a few minutes. At 11:15, when the car hadn’t shown up, I asked the valet what the holdup was. He said not to worry, that the car would be up shortly. After another 15 minutes passed, now 11:30, I went back to the valet. Although he assured me that the car would be up shortly, I could tell that they were having trouble locating it.
By 11:45 with no car in site I was wondering if there was any point in even driving to Boca, as the earliest I could get there would be around an hour late. I felt frustration and disappointment creeping in, but before I could fall to these emotions I reminded myself of this teaching, saying to myself, “This is the part of the day the Creator has created for you, this is the best part of your day.” After thinking about this over and over I was able to not only be ok with this messed up plan, but to actually enjoy and be happy with it.
Understanding this teaching is not as important as living it and having the ability to remember it when our plans are messed up and when what we did not plan for occurs. It is most important to be able to enjoy those times and realize that they are the best parts of our days and lives, because they are from the Creator.